Today is Mother's Day, a day to honor a very special person (or people, if you
include grandma and stepmom!) in your life. Your mother will most surely be
involved in your wedding, in some way, shape, or form, even if it is a remembrance and celebration of her legacy (if your mom has passed, here are some ideas to remember her and others that have passed on your wedding day.)
If you are lucky enough to have your mom in your life, the role of Mother of the Bride is surely one that is hard to define. Click here for some traditional duties that your mom would handle for your wedding.
But although this is your day, from your mom's perspective, a child's wedding can bring out a slew of emotions and feelings, ranging from sadness, stress, joy, even jealousy or envy. Dr. Valerie Kay wrote an entire article on what she calls the "Mother's Wedding Day Dilemma", which I suggest you read, or have your mom read. She writes:
"Behind every wedding is a story of a parent and child’s relationship. Each story is as unique as a snowflake, yet each contains the same essential truths." - Valerie Kay
Defining a role in your wedding for your mom will not only help you, but will help her feeling important and useful as you transition into a full-fledged adult. For the moms out there,remember at the same time that this is your daughters wedding, not your second-chance to plan your dream wedding. In most cases, it is best for a mother to help when needed, and simply do what comes naturally, which is be a mom! But try to let go and submit to your daughter's wishes...nothing causes more undue stress than an overbearing parent.
To segue into some "lighter" mom topics, finding a dress is also a big concern...There are numerous places, but heres a good place to go for Mother of the Bride dresses. Another great place to look for dresses (and located here in Clinton Township) is onceagainbridal.com as well as preownedweddingdresses.com. (Thanks to Natalie for pointing these sites out!!!)
So have a Happy Mother's Day, and use these tips to help make your wedding planning a great experience and a way to become a bit closer with mom!
Tom Santilli has been in the Detroit wedding industry since 2002, and in that time has established himself as one of the top in his field. His company, Complete Video Solutions , was named as the #1 Best Wedding Videographer in Detroit by local brides and Channel 4 FIVE consecutive years and is currently inducted into TheKnot.com's "Vendor Hall of Fame." He also has won several awards for his wedding production, and is a member of WEVA (Wedding & Event Videographers Association.) As the Detroit Wedding Examiner, he has helped hundreds of brides with their weddings, with a local knowledge not found anywhere else. Being in the industry for so long, he is an expert in all areas of wedding planning, not just videography. He welcomes your questions, article suggestions, or feedback, and he can be reached