Brandalynn writes: "The big day is getting closer, my to do list seems to be getting larger and work is asking for my vacation time & dates. What is a safe and efficient amount of time to take off of work?"
There is no "common etiquette" on this topic, meaning that there is no rule or shared opinion on it. Researching many sources though, it seems that many brides take off the entire week leading up to the wedding, or almost universally brides take off the Wednesday, Thursday, Friday leading up to the wedding (assuming it is on a Saturday.) For the Honeymoon, a week to two weeks seems about the average length. You probably don't want to push it more than that.
The big secret is to not overwhelm yourself or let nerves overcome you. Of course you are going to be excited as your wedding approaches, but make sure you have help with your planning. All the last minute details can be delegated to help make things run as smooth as possible for you. If you find that you think you need to take off a month to get things done, then that's a good sign that you may need to work on some time-management, and getting some support from your girls or family!
The best advice if it's not too late, is this: if you want your employer to give you consideration with your time off, then in return give your employer some consideration with when you schedule the wedding and honeymoon. If you are in a job that has strict deadlines, don'texpectyourbosstobehappythatyouplannedyourweddingrightatthebusiesttimeofyear. Byshowingthatyouare concerned about your employer and your job when planning the time off, that may help them to be sympathetic and helpful.
Lastly, you can check the various wedding website forums and ask your question to other brides...Beware the bad advice that I found out there such as "I quit my job before the wedding!" and "take as much time as you like!" Of course your wedding is important, but be practical...It's not necessary to lose your job in the process.
Tom Santilli has been in the Detroit wedding industry since 2002, and in that time has established himself as one of the top in his field. His company, Complete Video Solutions , was named as the #1 Best Wedding Videographer in Detroit by local brides and Channel 4 FIVE consecutive years and is currently inducted into TheKnot.com's "Vendor Hall of Fame." He also has won several awards for his wedding production, and is a member of WEVA (Wedding & Event Videographers Association.) As the Detroit Wedding Examiner, he has helped hundreds of brides with their weddings, with a local knowledge not found anywhere else. Being in the industry for so long, he is an expert in all areas of wedding planning, not just videography. He welcomes your questions, article suggestions, or feedback, and he can be reached