If you're lucky enough to have your father in your life at the time of your wedding day, most certainly he is involved in some way, shape, or form.
But Dad can be more than the guy who pays for the event (as used to be customary of the Bride's father...). Very commonly, Dad is given a moment to speak at the Reception (as in a before-dinner toast), and of course, there is the Daddy-Daughter Dance, and perhaps his most important role: walking his daughter down the aisle and giving her away. But a growing trend from brides I've talked to right here in our area (Detroit/Metro) are finding ways for Dad to help in the wedding planning too. In fact, there are many ways to involve your father or step-father, even if they are no longer with us. How? Read on!
Give him a list of things to do. While you and your girls (and even Mom) plan all of the fun stuff: the dress, decor, colors, flowers, etc, there are certain elements that might be better suited for Dad to handle. Maybe have him check out the list of vendors you are considering, and do some background searches on their reputations and/or quality of service. Men think differently than women (news flash!) but sometimes this different angle of thinking can help raise some questions that you may not have thought to ask by yourself, or with your maid of honor or mom present. Where you might by concerned with what songs your DJ is going to play, Dad may ask some logistical questions on how the speakers are going to be set up. If your Dad is willing, he can play a valuable role in helping you make more well-rounded decisions for your wedding.
Honor him with a Photo Montage. You may be familiar with seeing photo montages made up of the Bride & Groom, but how about one consisting of photos of you and your dad? Maybe have a few different TV monitors set up, one playing your photo montage with the bride and groom, one with you and your father, and one with the groom and his mother. I've even seen these Father/Daughter, Mother/Son Photo Montages projected on a screen as a backdrop for when you dance with your parent. It's a nice touch, one that honors your relationship with your father.
Honoring your Step-Father. The most common way I've witnessed is to have your step-father, maybe even along with your birth-father, accompany you down the aisle. If that seems like a bit too much, I've also seen the Daddy-Daughter Dance split time between the two (maybe birth-dad hands you off to step-dad mid-song), or even two Daddy-Daughter dances altogether.
Remember him. As mentioned, not all of us are lucky enough to still have our fathers with us. Here's an article on good ideas to remember loved ones that are no longer with us.
No, we haven't forgot mom (here's a separate article on Mom), but this Father's Day, it may be important to find ways to involve that first important man in your life...dear old Dad.
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Tom Santilli has been in the Detroit wedding industry since 2002, and in that time has established himself as one of the top in his field. His company, Complete Video Solutions , was named as the #1 Best Wedding Videographer in Detroit by local brides and Channel 4 FIVE consecutive years and is currently inducted into TheKnot.com's "Vendor Hall of Fame." He also has won several awards for his wedding production, and is a member of WEVA (Wedding & Event Videographers Association.) As the Detroit Wedding Examiner, he has helped hundreds of brides with their weddings, with a local knowledge not found anywhere else. Being in the industry for so long, he is an expert in all areas of wedding planning, not just videography. He welcomes your questions, article suggestions, or feedback, and he can be reached